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先介绍一下我的女朋友，晶晶。她以前有过一段婚姻，是同一位中国男士，她曾经约会过别的外国人，我也不是第一个和她有长期关系的外国男子。所以，她应该是一个很平衡的参照物，在比较两种文化不同的问题上很有发言权。
首先我问她，外国男人什么方面吸引了她。她说，“西方人很简单，一次约会过后，我就知道他是好人还是坏蛋。我喜欢和一个英俊的西方男子在一起，而被别人注意的那种感觉。西方男人比中国人看上去更强壮，更高，更英俊，我喜欢这种感觉。”
当我问到西方男人的态度时，她说：“西方男士对中国女孩更有礼貌；他们更注重自己的形象和生活细节；他们看上去更干净，也更有趣；和中国男人相比，他们更了解世界。我觉得他们更聪明些。”
接下来我又问她，和一个外国人拍拖有什么不好的地方吗？她回答道：“我喜欢一些人看我的眼光，不过另外一些人对我的看法使我感到很不快。他们会问：为什么你这么一个漂亮的中国女孩，会想到要和一个老外拍拖？他们在你身后议论，谈些让你不快的事情。”
她说，同外国人交往也不是一帆风顺的，因为存在着巨大的文化差异。有些细节她认为很重要，而西方男人就不会认真对待。“西方人都很自私。他们只想到自己，而不管其他人。比如，吃东西的时候，他们从不会问女孩是不是想先尝一口，只是抓起自己想吃的就大嚼起来。而中国人则喜欢首先考虑别人。这只是我举的一个例子，还有很多其他不同。”
我知道这样做是在玩火，不过我还是问，她喜欢我和不喜欢我哪些地方？她说：“我很喜欢你，所以我想为你做些什么。我喜欢你的诚实，你很善良，对我也很好。我喜欢你的个性，但你跟朋友出去玩也太频繁了吧。你们总是去酒吧喝酒玩飞镖，把女朋友忘在脑后。每当这时我就很愤怒。”
最后我问她最想改变我什么，如果能够的话。她说：“我不想改变你，那样你就变成别人了。我只是希望你好，我不希望你抽烟、喝酒，我希望你身体健康。”我不得不说，男人需要发泄，玩几次飞镖，喝几杯啤酒和偶尔抽几根烟，没有你想的那么十恶不赦。
我很喜欢和中国女孩约会。我觉得我的女朋友很诚实，也很会照顾人。我知道不是每个中国女孩都喜欢西方男人，同样也不是每个西方男子都喜欢中国女孩。不过我觉得这样的组合还不错，我们看上去都明白各自的需要。
这就是我想写出来的，其中也许有些道理吧。我不想在此下什么结论，因为这不是我的观点。我希望这篇文章不要激怒什么人，尽管我可以预见很多人看了会有些不快。不管怎么样，越来越多的外国人来到了中国，也许到了你们改变态度的时候了。
(本文作者系加拿大广播公司专栏作家) 长鼻子老外：我很喜欢和中国漂亮女孩约会 By Trevor Metz Why do foreigners like Chinese women? We just do. You have read all that before but I am going to try to illustrate why Chinese girls like western guys. I am sure the following column is going to offend some people but I don’t mean it as a slap in the face. I am writing it purely to provide some insight. I am using my girlfriend as my Guinea Pig. If you don’t know what that means, it’s not as offensive as it sounds. It means I am going to use her as my subject for the column. To give you some background on my girl, Jing Jing, she has dated foreign guys before. I am not the first foreign man she has had a long relationship with. She has also been married before to a Chinese man so she has a balanced frame of reference. I am not saying she is the ultimate authority but she can put the two cultures in perspective. I first asked her, what attracted her to foreign men? She said, “Western guys are easy to read. I know if they are good or bad guys after one date.” She also said, “I like the attention I get from being with a handsome western man. I think western men are stronger looking than Chinese men. I like that they are taller and more handsome.” When it comes to western attitudes Jing Jing says, “Western men are more polite to Chinese girls. They pay more attention to the details of their appearance and life. They are cleaner and they are more interesting. They know more about the world than Chinese men do. I just feel they are smarter.” I told you this column would offend some of you. I then asked her, what are the bad things about dating a foreigner? She said, “While I like the way some people look at you, I don’t like the |
